Category: Hospials

Would You Notice the Signs Before It’s Too Late?

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Act Before It’s Too Late: Supporting Our Loved Ones in Times of Need

In many families, it’s common to hear words of reassurance when someone is going through a rough patch in their marriage. “It’s okay, it happens in all marriages,” they say. And while it’s true that no marriage is without its challenges, there comes a point when the signs of distress should no longer be brushed aside—it becomes a red flag that demands attention.

Imagine a daughter who, over the course of more than ten years, grows increasingly distant. She stops talking with family and friends, her laughter fades, and her once vibrant personality seems to dim. Those around her might notice, but often, they choose to ignore the signs, convincing themselves that things will get better on their own. They might tell themselves, “She’s just going through a phase,” or “It’s not our place to interfere.”

But what if, one day, that daughter takes an extreme step? What if she feels so lost, so unheard, and so unsupported that she decides to end her life? Suddenly, the same people who dismissed her pain are left in shock, asking themselves, “How did we not see this coming? We never thought she would do this.”

The truth is, many people do see the signs, but they choose not to act on them. Perhaps they believe it’s not their business, or they fear making things worse by intervening. But in situations like this, doing nothing is the worst thing you can do. When someone is struggling, especially over an extended period, they need more than just comforting words—they need real support, understanding, and sometimes, direct intervention.

The tragic story of Jiah Khan, a promising young actress in India, serves as a painful reminder of the consequences of prolonged unhappiness and lack of support. Jiah struggled with her mental health for years, feeling isolated and unsupported in her personal life. Despite being surrounded by people who cared for her, her cries for help went unheard or were dismissed. Sadly, Jiah took her own life in 2013, leaving behind a devastated family and countless friends who were left wondering what more they could have done.

As the renowned psychologist Carl Rogers once said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” This acceptance doesn’t only apply to individuals struggling with their own emotions; it’s also a call for us to accept the reality of our loved ones’ distress and to act compassionately to help them through it. Ignoring someone’s prolonged unhappiness isn’t just a failure to act—it’s a failure to accept that something is deeply wrong.

We need to stop assuming that things will get better on their own. We need to stop waiting until it’s too late to show we care. When a loved one is in distress, especially if that distress has gone on for years, it’s crucial to step in, to ask questions, and to offer help. This doesn’t mean meddling or making judgments; it means being there, listening, and providing the support they need.

Mental health is a delicate issue, and prolonged unhappiness can lead to severe consequences if left unaddressed. It’s vital to create an environment where your loved ones feel safe expressing their feelings without fear of being dismissed or judged. This might mean encouraging them to seek professional help, or simply being there to listen when they need to talk.

We must remember that ignoring someone’s prolonged unhappiness is not a form of kindness; it’s a form of neglect. When someone we care about is suffering, we need to act, not just sympathize. It’s far better to be over-cautious and offer help than to stand by and do nothing until it’s too late.

In the end, the tears and the regret of those left behind won’t bring back the person they’ve lost. But what can make a difference is recognizing the signs early, offering support, and showing that you care when it truly matters. Let’s strive to be the kind of friends and family members who don’t just say, “It’s okay, it happens in all marriages,” but instead say, “I’m here for you, let’s talk about what’s really going on.”

By acting when it matters, we can help prevent tragedies and show our loved ones that they are never truly alone. Don’t wait until they’re gone to show how much you care—act now, while you still can.

Always add insurance option while buying Travel Tickets

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Referring to the article on ET people who were affected by the Balasore Train accident could have got some solace if they had paid the extra 35 paise as a part of insurance while buying the tickets. They would have got death benefit of 10 lakh, permanent disability 10 lakh, hospitalization coverage 2 lakh and Transportation of mortal remains INR 10,000. So this is just one example and one case.

How often do we select that insurance option while booking tickets? Now that we know about it we can definitely add this extra few paise or rupees while buying a train ticket or bus ticket. But most often for flight tickets the insurance part would be more. So we might not choose that option. But remember risk is also more while flying. So better to opt for that every time that option is there. Now we need to cross check of all the people who opted for that how many get the benefit and how soon. Because the family members might not even be aware if they had opted for that or not!! Not everyone buys tickets online. Hope Government compensates everyone affected by the accident.

Dengue Discussions

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Dear Friends,

few days back I had posted a discussion thread about Dengue in Bangaloredengue. Here is the summary of the discussion. Also click this link which gives you detailed information about causes, symptoms and precautions to be taken.

Please contact doctor if you ever doubt you are feeling ill. This post is just to alarm you about Dengue and request you to take all measures to keep your family safe.

Causes

  1. Lot of people use a plate under the flower pot to prevent water from leaking and soiling of floor. It is a clean water source best for dengue mosquitoes. They also showed me new eggs ready to become lethal dengue mosquitoes. Place was quickly fumigated. Some other places that they looked for:
  2. A little bit of water leftover in a mug/bucket etc for days 
  3. Little bit of rain water that gets stuck near slider doors etc
  4. Basically, any clean source of static water kept for days is what dengue mosquito loves.
  5. If you are working from home, you are at higher risk as dengue mosquitoes are found during day time. 

Precautions

  1. Start using mosquito repellants during day time also as Dengue causing mosquitoes are active during day time
  2. You have to put a drop of Citronella Oil in each room of your house to ward off mosquitoes.
  3. Remove all source of stagnant water where mosquitoes can breed

Hospitals in Bangalore

  1. the hospitals should have platelet separation facility
  2. Fortis Bannerghatta Road has this facility.
  3. Manipal Hospital – Dr.Col Holla
  4. Rotary blood bank, Thippasandra
  5. Columbia Asia Yashwantpur has this facility
  6. Columbia Asia Hebbal does not have platelet separation facility

Symptoms

  • High fever, intense head ache, pain behind eyes, muscle and joint pain, loss of appetite, vomiting, diarrhea, skin rashes
  • If the platelet count shows a trend of falling rapidly, please do not delay admitting in a hospital, preferably a hospital with a blood bank attached. Though I am not a doctor, but as a matter of caution also keep a check on Creatinine level in the Kidneys and SPGO  and SPGT  ( liver function tests) enzyme levels. In my friend’s case these enzyme levels had gone up to 16,000 as against a upper limit of 65 and 40.
  • Adequate hydration of the patient is the key to recovery.

blood

    • It is correct that for platelets, the type of blood group is immaterial. Any group donor can give blood to the Blood Bank except persons who have diabetes or any other chronic disease. The Bank extracts platelets form the blood and the platelets are transfused to the patient.
    • Platelet count is important if it is going to sub 15000 range (Sub 10000 mark, internal body bleeding and organ failures start). That is why doctors ask to donate platelet for emergency purposes. Hence should be monitored cautiously.